You make two really great points in this article. Let’s be careful, however, in attempts at motivation not to oversimplify dynamics of life.
The man whose daughter is raped and goes through a life crisis did not end up there by his desires, plans, and choices.
The man whose wife leaves for another man may have loved the woman the best he could. Part of the problem nowadays — women or men want what they already knew prior to marriage their spouse is not a position to give. Think the party girl who marries a nerd then complains he does not enjoy doing anything exciting or the guy who marries a high maintenance woman then expects her to become a housewife.
Sometimes life throws people curves not created by their desires, plans, or choices. It is what life is sometimes. At any point in time it is how we are responding to or what we are making of our current situation that matters. The desires we have now and the investments we are willing to make now are what define us.
The past may be colored significantly by vicissitudes of life.
If you know a little bit about the Bible you probably have heard about Job. The man lost everything even though he was doing everything almost right, almost perfect and it was God attesting to the man. Yes he got it all back but at the time he lost everything, his desires, actions, choices had nothing to do with what he experienced. The point is, bad things have been known to happen to people doing everything right. It is part of the evil that exists in this world.
The person who claims its all about his or her choices remains standing only until the next hurricane, flood, tornado, or tsunami knocks his house from under him and his or her beautiful car becomes a flood loss.