Suppose both men and women regard sex to be an important and integral component of building of intimacy in a relationship. Impose the fact no man or woman always is perfectly ready for sex. In such a world, every orgasm achieved yesterday reassures orgasm not achieved today is outcome of imperfection, not necessarily selfishness. Every orgasm not achieved today increases the probability both the man and the woman will attempt to find better timing next time because there is communication of lack of satisfaction, and mutual interest in serving each other better next time. In presence of focus on intimacy, pleasure becomes secondary, yet simultaneously more satisfying.
In so far as sex education is concerned, too much of teaching of sex to young people creates a society focused on pleasure and hedonism, as opposed to accumulation of virtues.
We already have more hedonism than we can handle in today’s society. Let young people search out more of what they seek to know about sex individually on their own terms.