People who have co-dependency issues need friends before they need lovers. The problem at times is they demand from friends what only should be demanded from lovers, resulting in shooing away of potential friends, and resort to finding lovers. At the end of it all, people with co-dependency issues have to figure out how to fix themselves if they are to enter into healthy relationships.

I do not have any co-dependency issues. I grew up, however, more of a melancholic than a sanguine, you know the intermediate personality trait somewhat between choleric and phlegmatic. My faith in Jesus Christ has, without any focus on personality on my part (I did not think I needed fixing), helped me become more rounded — less of a melancholic, more of sanguine and phlegmatic. In essence, I have evolved into a more rounded personality without ever really paying attention to my personality in course of trying my best to project my faith in Jesus Christ in my love (love here means actions), that is, in the way I relate with others. These sorts of real effects of spirituality are the real most tangible ‘miracles’ that are supposed to be outcome of faith in Jesus Christ. But on Television, pastors and churches are mostly about money and success — the more ephemeral things of this life.

Are there any studies or insights on relationship between having a well rounded personality and capacity to make friends?

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Educator and Researcher, Believer in Spirituality, Life is serious business, but we all are pilgrims so I write about important stuff with empathy and ethos

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