Suppose you respond with love to those who you think love you. Then suppose again you respond with hatred to those who you think hate you.
Well then, sometimes you are loving people. At other times, you are hating people. Sometimes during the very same day, at various times, you find yourself in situations that demand either of a love or hate response from your mind, emotions, and body.
Your emotional life becomes a YoYo, demands more of mind power for it’s management, can (medical fact) induce pains and ills in your body.
The reason your mind and body react negatively to being ‘Yoyoed’? And the evidence that your mind, emotions, and body are not designed to be Yoyoed all over the place?
Sleeping at a regular time every night is good for your body.
The seasons, Fall, Winter, Spring, and Summer all occur with regularity. Imagine what would happen if farmers all over the world chose not to plant stuff at the regular time of the year.
The orbit of the earth on it’s axis daily for generation of night and day, and orbit of the earth around the sun occur with astounding regularity.
If your car does not start in the morning, does not behave in a regular manner, you are concerned.
Hatred and Love require different types of mind sets and actions. Fluctuating between one set and the other implies at the very least Bipolarity — two different sets of values and personalities.
If you had to live by one only — Love or Hatred, with full knowledge that you only will get back whichever you choose, which would you choose?
None of the mind, emotions, or body function best when they are Yoyoed all over the place.
Friend (if I may), allowing yourself YoYo between love and hatred and anything in between makes you have to choose between two different sets of values and personalities all of the time, implying whether or not you have a handle on it, that you develop multiple personalities.
Even if your mind does not break down, the unnatural strain that multiple sets of values and personalities exert on your mind can contribute to breakdowns in your relationships.
Suppose you always choose between love and hatred. In presence of this state of affairs and in context of interactions, your mind always is poised for choice of one or the other. In presence of such tension in the mind, you never are able to truly relax in course of interactions with others. Because your mental guard always is up, your mind always is tensed up.
A tensed up mind tenses up the brain, tenses up the emotions, tenses up the body. Absent your full realization, a tensed up mind is debilitating to your entire body system.
The choice of Love as way of life is the only dominant strategy for arrival at and maintenance of only one set of values, is dominant strategy for arrival at one and only one personality.
To choose love is not to choose weakness. Rather, it is to choose to distance yourself from people who seem not to care about your feelings, who seem not to care about your welfare. Rather than hate, you forgive, then you love your self by distancing your person from people who seem not to care about your welfare.
Note you can distance yourself from your colleague sitting at the very next desk. All you have to do is accept them for who they are, then refuse to allow yourself be emotionally vulnerable. If you choose not to share your self with a person who seems not to care about your feelings or welfare, you distance your self from such a person. Since acceptance of such a person for who they are is an act of love, the decision to distance your self is rooted in Love.
Did you know that even Jesus declares that He distances Himself from those who do not care about His feelings?
If Jesus truly is representative of the character of God, well then distancing of your self (in your mind at the very least) from those who do not care about you is godly loving behavior.
When you choose Love as ‘way of life’, you resort to just one set of values, principles, and behaviors for running of life. You adopt the dominant strategy for maintenance of cognition, you give your mind the restful balance it needs if it is to last as long as your heart and body.
are the principles of Love?
Well, Love is Patient; Love is Kind; Love is Gentle; Love does not behave Unseemly; Love is not Proud; Love cares about it’s own Aspirations, but does not trample over Aspirations of others; Love does not Envy; Never is puffed up. Because Love can distance itself in the mind from those who refuse to get along, Love never fails at enabling peace of mind.
Friend (if I may):
Be courageous, be strong, let all that you do be done in Love.